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TABLE OF CONTENTS of BLOG

1.  Seven Articles on  RESISTANCE TO CHANGE  Introduce a Faster and More Effective Way to Recover from Divorce

Resistance to Change –  A Revolutionary, NEW APPROACH to Divorce Recovery: Out with the Old, In with the New (and Better). This blog post answers the question, “Is there a new, and better, way to recover from divorce than the traditional way- that actually works ?” Read More

Resistance to Change –  Divorce Recovery and Unhappiness: What’s Preventing You from Enjoying Your New Life after Divorce? This blog post answers the question, “What is the key to achieving happiness in your life after divorce?” Read More

Resistance to Change – Divorce Recovery and Disappointment: Why Don’t Support Groups, Therapy, or Time Work Very Well?  This blog post answers the question: “Why don’t the common methods for helping people recover from a divorce  (support groups, therapy, and passage of time) work very well?”  Read More

Resistance to Change – Divorce Recovery & Bad Decisions: Will the 4 Traps Set by Resistance to Change Ruin Your Future?  This article answers the question: “What are the real-world consequences of failing to eliminate your post-divorce resistance to change?”   Read More

Resistance to Change – Divorce Recovery Failure: Are You Being Seduced by the Status Quo?  This article answers the question, “What makes recovering from divorce so difficult?” Read More

Resistance to ChangeDivorce Recovery & Resistance to Change: How to Sabotage Your Divorce Recovery without Even Trying. This article answers the question, “How can your recovery from divorce be undermined by resistance to change?”  Read More

Resistance to Change Divorce Recovery and the 3 Stages of Transition: The Key to Preventing More Trips to Divorce Court.  This article answers the question, “What are the primary barriers to a successful recovery from divorce?”  Read More

2.  Four PERSONAL RESOURCES That Provide the Inner Strength Needed to Recover from Divorce

Personal Resources – Personal Principles – How to Maintain Direction During the Chaos of Divorce Recovery. This blog post answers the question, “How can I stay focused on what is important for my divorce recovery in the midst of the chaos of exploding emotions?” Read More

Personal Resources – 5 Sources of  Hope – How to Find the Courage to Make a Smooth Divorce Recovery. This blog post answers the question, “Where do I find the courage to handle the uncertainty of making a recovery from divorce?”  Read More

Personal Resources – Blessings in Disguise – Find the Confidence for Making a Smooth Divorce RecoveryThis blog post answers the question, “Where do I find the confidence needed to handle recovering from my divorce?”  Read More

Personal Resources – Social Support – Everyone Needs a Change Buddy in Their Recovery from Divorce. This blog post answers the question, “What do I do if I can’t make this recovery from divorce alone?”  Read More

3.  Five Personal MINDSET Requirements for a Successful Recovery from Divorce

MindsetDivorce Recovery “Mindset Choice” No. 1: What Do You Mean the “Hard Work is Just Beginning?”  This article answers the question, “Now that the divorce is final, what’s so wrong about sitting back and taking it easy?”  Read More

MindsetDivorce Recovery “Mindset Choice” No. 2: Divorce Recovery – A Problem to Solve or a Person to Punish?  This article answers the question, “Why shouldn’t I exact revenge from my ex for all the pain inflicted on me in our divorce?”  Read More

Mindset Divorce Recovery “Mindset Choice” No. 3: Would You Rather Be Right, or Would You Rather Be Happy?  This article answers the question, “Are you willing to let being happy be enough?”  Read More

MindsetDivorce Recovery Mindset: The Case of the Kidnapped Son This article answers the question, “What does making the choice between ‘being right’ and ‘being happy’ look like in real life?” Read More

Mindset Divorce Recovery Mindset Choice No. 4: Is Your Divorce A Past Life Event or a Current Way of Life?  This article answers the question, “Do you see your divorce as an event that happened to you in your past? Or, have memories of your divorce finagled their way into becoming more of a subtle way of life for you?”  Read More

Mindset Divorce Recovery Mindset Choice No. 5: Keep Your Eye on the Prize or Be Distracted by Emotions?   This article answers the question, “Are you willing to stay focused on what it takes to make a successful recovery from divorce, or will you be sidetracked by tempting emotional excursions?” Read More

4. Cultural Obstacles to a Successful Recovery from Divorce

CultureDivorce Recovery and Cultural Obstacles: Debunking the Myth That Men Can’t Express Their Feelings.  This article answers the question, “Is it true that men really cannot express their feelings?” Read More

5. A  Program for Divorce Recovery

The articles below explain and expand upon to the 3 Steps and 10 Modules in the figure above.

Overview of the Program:

Overview – Divorce Recovery Needs a Roadmap to Follow: Here It Is – 10 Steps to a Full Recovery from Divorce.  This article answers the question, “Is there a roadmap to follow that will help me make a full and complete recovery from divorce without having to lug traumatic baggage around the rest of my life?” Read More

Step 1: Stabilize Your Reactions to the Divorce

Module 1: Disentangle Yourself from Your Ex

Module 2: Acknowledge the Trauma Divorce Caused

Module 3: Accept Your Ambivalence about Your Divorce

Divorce Recovery and Ambivalence: Why Do I Have Second Thoughts When I’m Glad I Got Divorced? This article answers the question, “Did I make a mistake in getting divorced?”  Read More

Module 4: Clarify Your Goals for Divorce Recovery Success

Divorce Recovery Success: And How Your Post-Divorce Relationship with Your Ex Can Kill It.  This article answers the question, “What should your goal be for your post-divorce relationship with your ex if you want to protect a successful recovery from your divorce?”  Read More

Divorce Recovery & the Post-Divorce Relationship with Your Ex: Why Can’t We Just Be Friends?  This article answers the question, “Why is it so difficult to remain friends with your ex?”  Read More

Divorce Recovery Success: Think You’ve Recovered? Have You Met All the 8 Required Criteria?  This article answers the question, “How will I know if I have fully recovered from my divorce?” Read More

Step 2: Dissolve Reluctance to Accept Your New Life Situation

Module 5: Dissolve the Effects of Fear

Module 6: Dissolve the Effects of Loss

Don’t Grieve It If You Didn’t Lose It.  This blog post answers the question, “Did I really lose everything I think I lost?”    Read More

Module 7: Bring the Relationship to Completion

 Divorce Recovery and Forgiveness: Busting the Myth of the Traditional Understanding of Forgiveness. This article answers the question, “How can I forgive my ex after what I’ve been put through?”  Read More

Step 3: Prepare for Your Future

Module 8: Prepare for a Relationship

8-1.  Five Articles on EARLY DATING and the TRANSITION RELATIONSHIP

Early Dating Divorce Recovery and Early Dating: When Is It OK to Start Dating Again?  This blog post answers the question,”When is it OK to start dating again?”  Read More

Early Dating Divorce Recovery and Early Dating: Should I Start Dating Again? 8 Good Reasons and 8 Bad Reasons Read More

Early Dating TRANSITION Relationships: Could A Last-Minute Wedding Cancellation Be a Godsend?  This blog post answers the question, “What is a Transition Relationship and how can it set the stage for making a smooth divorce recovery?” Motivating Question: “How can a transition relationship help me while I am in the midst of relationship hell?” Read More

Early Dating Early Dating & TRANSITION Relationships: Shift Happens This blog post answers the question, “What is the biggest threat to the success of early dating?”  Motivating Question: “Do I have confidence that my next long-term relationship will not fail?”   Read More

Early Dating Early Dating, & TRANSITION Relationships: Isn’t This Another Name for an Affair? This blog post answers the question,  “What good is a transition relationship if it is just another word for an ‘affair?'”   Motivating Question: “Can  a transition relationship give me the courage to end my marriage?” Read More

8-2.  Seven Articles on the 5 STEPS TO A LONG-TERM, COMMITTED RELATIONSHIP

Build Relationship – OverviewDivorce Recovery & the 5 Steps to Your Next Long-Term, Committed Relationship: An Overview This article answers the question, “Is there a roadmap that lays out the path to finding my next long-term, committed relationship?”  Read More

Build Relationship – Step 1 – The TRANSITION Relationship.  This blog post answers the question, “What is the first step to take in finding my next long-term relationship after my divorce?”  Motivating Question:  “Can he/she help me release my attachments to my ex and my relationship with my ex?”  Read More

Build Relationship – Step 2The RECREATIONAL Relationship.  This blog post answers the question, “If it feels so right, how on earth can it be wrong?” Motivating Question:  “Do I enjoy myself when I am with him/her? Do we have ‘chemistry?”  Read More

Build Relationship – Step 3The  PRE-COMMITTED Relationship. This blog post answers the question, “What is arguably more important than listening to your heart for determining the success of a long-term, committed relationship?” Motivating Question: “Will a life with this person give me what I require in a long-term relationship?” Read More

Build RelationshipDivorce Recovery and Your Next Committed Relationship: To Want or To Require? That is the Question  This article answers the question, “How can I make my next long-term, committed relationship be successful?” Read More

Build Relationship – Step 4The  COMMITTED Relationship. This blog post answers the question, “Why is a committed relationship more complicated than it looks?” Motivating Question: “How can we as a couple make this work?”Read More

Build Relationship – Step 5 – The  MARITAL Relationship. This blog post answers the question,  “Why do over 65% of re-marriages fail?”  Motivating Question: “How can WE help each other fulfill our personal dreams?” Read More

Module 9: Recalibrate Your Life: The New You

Module 10: Use the Past to Plan Your Future